When Austen did something bad at a play date, she remembered exactly what she had done and told Dada about it later in the day when he asked about her day. No prompting. Dada was surprised by her ability to recall what she’s done wrong.
When Austen asks to watch a video, Mama can explain that she doesn’t get to because, for instance, she hit Mama in Art Class earlier that day. And Austen gets this. It even deters her from hitting, although not every time.
It’s so much easier to explain things to Austen, even when the consequences are longer term. And she knows a lot about what she is and isn’t supposed to do, even if she intentionally breaks the rules at times.